Don’t Try to Impose Your Values, Beliefs, and Ideals Onto Others…and Please Leave Scrooge Alone!

This holiday season please consider giving pause to your need to fill in the blanks, to make things right, to force others to be spirited and joyful. For other people this isn’t the season to be jolly, and they don’t want to fake it to make you feel better. 

Just because you are feeling good, great, alive, and blessed–doesn’t mean they are. Yet you’re trying to force them to feel about their life and about themselves what you feel about yours. You’re imposing, encroaching, and pushing yourself onto them. 

Stop it!

They want to be miserable. Let them. God gives them free will, so why won’t you let them be as they want?


We feel uncomfortable with the Scrooges in our life. We feel uncomfortable when they want to twist and turn in chaos and wallow in darkness. We feel uncomfortable with their grumpiness and outbursts. We feel uncomfortable with how petty and childish they are acting. We can’t believe that they can’t see their blessings. We feel their negativity and we want instant change because it’s draining us. We try to counter it with an added dose of high energy, laughter and the like. And they come back with a whopper of dread. 

Rather than spend valuable energy and time trying to change their thinking and behavior, just change your location. Exit stage left and go about your business. 


We have a tendency to want to pour our views, values, beliefs, and ideals into others. We want people to see, think, behave, and feel the same way we do. 

Honestly, it’s selfish. 

Even if the intent is to bring harmony, it’s selfish of us to try to manipulate, persuade, or force someone to join us in that harmony. 

Some people need to wallow in self-pity to eventually see their foolishness. 

Some people need to give you silent treatments so that they too must walk around in silence–alone with their thoughts, alone with their Creator. Which is more torturous for them than actually speaking to you, but they don’t see that. 

Of course they don’t realize it when they are doing it, and sometimes they don’t even realize it after they have finished. But sometimes isolation is the best environment for purging old ways. Sometimes giving people exactly what they ask for is exactly what they need to see that what they wanted wasn’t what they actually thought it was cracked up to be. Sometimes you need to let people see the whole picture, rather than constantly trying to paint a different picture because it makes you feel uncomfortable. 

In alcohol and drug treatment programs they make a point of telling loved ones of addicts that until that addict hits rock bottom, he or she may not stop their reckless behavior. 

Why is that? 

It’s simple. An addict with enabling family and friends uses those people as a crutch to continue their recklessness. If the people around you do and say whatever it takes to keep you pleased, to cause no ripples in the water, then they are enabling the addiction and weakening the addict. 

Ironically, this too becomes an addiction. 

The enabling becomes an addiction that the addict craves. It is the one-two punch that they need each day. They have their drug and they have the support of those who either supply or contribute to the purchase of the drug. They will lie, cheat, steal, and some will even kill to feed their addiction. They will turn on you and try to get others to turn on you, and you on them—all with the ultimate goal of getting an addiction fed. When everyone participates in this grand scheme, it enables the addiction and feeds the addict. The addict wins and the rest of you lose. Big time!

When does the enabling stop? When family and friends say, “if you want to wallow in this cesspool, do it alone, but I’m not going to play a role in your foolishness” and then they exit stage left.

You have to stop trying to make people see, feel, hear, think, and believe what you do. If they are closed off, let them be. If their dysfunction makes you feel uncomfortable, then exit stage left. Because if you don’t, they will drag you into their misery. They will work feverishly to turn your light into darkness, your joy into pain. They will work tirelessly to make you feel as isolated and miserable as they do. They will impose upon you so that you can see how they truly feel about themselves. 

If they don’t believe in God, but you do, then just silently pray for them and walk away. If they do believe in God, but you don’t, then just silently walk away and cross your fingers they aren’t cursing you. Now smile. You giggled didn’t you? Good. You do have a sense of humor. You will need it to get through some of the quirkiest moments in life. I eventually find humor in even the darkest moments of my life. A chuckle turns into a laugh, and before I know it I’m bent over at the waist laughing hysterically. That’s because I refuse to be consumed by darkness. I refuse to wallow in misery and hang around miserable people. They can come to the light but I’m not entering their dungeon. 

So my fellow humans, I ask that starting today you simply focus on smiling and laughing, singing and dancing, rejoicing and praising—and doing all of this without trying to force Mr./Ms. Scrooge to join you. 

Let the “ghosts” of the past, present, and future do what they do best. Either Scrooge will come around or they won’t. But it’s not up to you to control their destiny, to alter their course, or to make them do anything. You’re here to live your life, not theirs. Don’t feed their addiction and don’t create your own. Be at peace with your peace, and don’t let anyone or anything steal your joy!

With love,

~Natasha 

Quote of the Day: A Message From Magic

Let this marinate in your mind, heart, and soul….


Source: I don’t have the original photographer to credit. I found this image at Daily Inspiration and Motivation site. 

Sometimes You CAN Learn Something From TV Show “Family Guy”

Wouldn’t it be ironic if the politicians, pundits, and elitists who spew anti-immigration rhetoric, who fan the flames of fear and hatred towards immigrants, and brainwash people to embrace an “us versus them” mindset, actually had THIS experience:

https://watchcartoonline.io/family-guy-episode-606-padre-de-familia-2

 

Michael Moore’s Post-Election 5-Point Plan…

Get out some paper and something to write with, or get ready to copy and paste this somewhere you can see it on a regular basis. This is serious business for people who woke up this morning saying, “tell me this is a lie, a nightmare, a joke

Here’s Michael Moore’s post-Election 5-Point Plan and To-do list:

https://m.facebook.com/mmflint/posts/10153913074756857

Roseville Michigan Police: 2 ‘creepy clowns’ Arrested After Terrorizing Teens

People running around in clown costumes and makeup need to understand that it’s all fun and games to you, until your intended target turns around and gives you something to run from.

People are on edge lately with all that’s going on and going wrong in our country, and around the world. We don’t need a bunch of idiots running around terrorizing us in costumes and theatrical makeup.

Those who are foolish enough to do this in states where open carry and concealed carry laws exist, you are risking a moment of sadistic laughter for a possible bullet in your body, or a beat down that you won’t easily recover from.

Please stop this madness before someone really gets hurt.

These two young women who were arrested and highlighted in this news article, don’t know how lucky they are that those 14-year-old girls ran to the police and not to someone who could’ve quickly turned that situation from bad to worse, from scary to a flat-out horror show.

Please stop this madness!

If you want to play dress up there are plenty of places where you can role play for hours, as whatever character that you want. Just keep that nonsense off of (and out of the) streets, roads, highways, parks, neighborhoods, schools, and other public and private areas.

Please. Stop the madness!

http://www.freep.com/story/news/local/michigan/macomb/2016/10/07/roseville-clown-arrest/91722022/

Ideal Height and Weight Chart – Body Mass Index (BMI) – Quick Guides – Rush University Medical Center

Here’s a straight to the point guide to help you determine your ideal, average, and at-risk ranges for weight and body mass index (BMI).

If your BMI is over 24.9 feet you really should consider stepping up by eating cleaner, working out 5-7 days per week, and finding ways to be spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically well.

Check out this link and see how it can help you and your loved ones!

https://www.rush.edu/health-wellness/quick-guides/what-is-a-healthy-weight