Some of our Leaders Seem to Have a Problem with “Brain-Mouth Disconnect Syndrome”

By Natasha L. Foreman

Some people need to just think before they speak, or simply refrain from answering a question when they have absolutely nothing of intelligence to say in response. Case in point…again… Oklahoma state Representative Sally Kern.

This woman appears to have what I call, “brain-mouth disconnect syndrome” whenever a microphone or reporter is nearby. Her mouth gets to yapping but her brain is totally disconnected from the process. She needs a handler who does a better job screening what comes out of her mouth. Do you remember when three years ago she made the comment that gay people are destroying the United States and were a greater threat than terrorists? If not, I have included the link to this footage at the end of this post. Do you remember Kern’s Divorce Bill that would have made it hard for people to get divorced in Oklahoma? Yes, I included that link below as well.

Well Ms. Kern has really stepped in her own mess last Wednesday during an affirmative action bill debate she back-handed both women and African-Americans by saying that women don’t work as hard and earn as much as men because they are more concerned about raising their families, and the high incarceration rate of Black people must have something to do with them not wanting to work hard in school.

We have a high percentage of blacks in prison, and that’s tragic, but are they in prison just because they are black or because they don’t want to study as hard in school?…I’ve taught school, and I saw a lot of people of color who didn’t study hard because they said the government would take care of them.

But let’s hear it directly from the horse’s mouth shall we? Oh and look at the body language and reaction from her constituents in the audience! Thank goodness for YouTube…

Yep, she said it and after coming under attack and her people returning from their extended lunch break (I’m joking about the latter) she tries to clean up her comments by saying that women are some of the hardest workers in the world, and that what she said didn’t come from her “true spirit“. Okay so where did it come from? Will people have to question which spirit (true or false) she’s speaking from every time she opens her mouth?

Maybe it’s time for Ms. Kern to take some sensitivity training, or re-training. Anthony Davis, the President of the NAACP Oklahoma chapter is cutting Kern no slack and is standing firm in his call for her resignation, and urging Kern’s constituents do the same- saying, “Let’s send a message out that in Oklahoma we will not tolerate racism at its ugliest level.”

See the Oklahoma news KOCO report that covered the story and interviewed both Anthony Davis and state Representative Mike Shelton:

I’m all for freedom of speech but when do we draw the line especially when words of hate, bigotry, and racism come from the mouths of our country’s leaders, influencers, and those who intend to lead?

If we are to be the example for the rest of the world to follow why then should we be surprised that there is so much hate spewed about our country and our people? We talk about athletes and entertainers being role models and that they should watch what they say and do, but what about highly visible business people and those in government positions who serve the people of this nation? What standards are set for them, or are they not considered role models?

What are your thoughts?

Oh and by the way here’s the link to her Divorce Bill recommendation:

And her remarks about gays in 2008 in case you never heard it or need your memory refreshed:

Copyright 2011. Natasha L. Foreman. All Rights Reserved.

>Who’s That Sunshine?!?

>Someone asked me recently how I got the nickname “Sunshine”. Well when I was born both of my parents gave me nicknames…

My mother would smile and giggle as she saw me wiggle and flip around like a fish…so she quickly gave me the nickname “Fish”. This became a true honor as I grew old enough to spend quality time with her father, my grandfather; known to many people as “King Fish”. Ah it made me proud having a nickname that connected me to my grandfather. He was an awesome man. Oddly though he chose not to call me “Fish” and opted instead to name me “Yellow Belly”…yeah I guess you could say that is a fish, but he was referring to the color of my skin! No laughing please….

Now my father saw something different in me when I was a baby. He too would smile and laugh when he saw me wiggle, flip, and squirm; but he called me “Sunshine” for the light of joy I brought to my parents lives. My dad said that when I smiled it made other people smile; and how I brought a great energy when I entered a room. Wow! Talking about giving a girl an ego boost!

So I grew up being called “Sunshine” and “Fish” until ninth grade when I asked my mom to refrain from using “Fish” in public or around my friends, as their twisted little minds made a sweet, honored name into something resembling a description in a women’s hygiene advertisement. Oh how they teased and inquired about that name. I had a reputation that I was building and trying to protect. We all know how high school can be-  get a negative label and you’re done for! I know women to this day who are still referred to by the negative nicknames given to them in high school 20 and 30 years ago…I couldn’t let that happen to me! So my mom agreed, and in time she eventually stopped calling me “Fish” altogether. I hoped and still hope that my plea didn’t hurt her feelings. There are times I miss hearing her say it; when she says “Tasha” I’d almost prefer her to call me “Fish” instead. Maybe one day she will. 

So there you go. That is the history behind my nickname “Sunshine”. I didn’t make it up, just get it recently, or get it from some ex-boyfriend. Nope, my late, great father gave me that name and I love it. I even found a special way to remain connected to that name, that image, and my father forever…I’m inked for life! 

I hope you don’t mind that I shared that little known fact about me. I also hope it doesn’t help stalkers get one step closer to tracking me down! (Laugh)

Does anyone have any interesting childhood nicknames that they would like to share with me and my readers? I’d love to learn more about you. Please consider sharing! While you ponder that I will continue drafting my next two posts covering business tips and the latest in Africa. Until we meet here again, enjoy your life and be a blessing in another person’s life. 


Copyright 2010. Natasha L. Foreman. All Rights Reserved.