5 Ways to Get Your Kids to Read 40 or More Books This Summer

By Natasha Foreman Bryant

I don’t have any children yet, but after reading this article by Ronnie Tyler, I couldn’t help but to smile and giggle as I reminisced about my childhood reading experience, and what I intend to implement with my own children.

All 5 ways listed by Ronnie were the same ways that my parents engaged me into the wonderful world of books. All 5 experiences connected me with my dad (who loved reading) as we challenged each other every week, both during the school year and throughout summer break.

Even when I became an adult I can recall my dad reading two or more books in a week. I still possess the majority of my dad’s book collection, and I even have the books that he was reading the week he passed away—all of which are intriguing, and all of which I have said repeatedly that I should read, but still haven’t.

I don’t read as often as I used to or as often as I would like. There are tons of books that I want to jump into beyond my spiritual and occasional business readings. Shame on me, because as Ronnie highlighted and my parents implemented as a rule—turn off the tv and remove yourself from distractions for two hours—it’s time to read.

Check out Ronnie Tyler’s article and then share your experiences and feedback about engaging your children (or being engaged when you were a child) into the many journeys that come from reading a book. Share how often you read now and the types of books that you like to explore.

Then let’s ALL get reading!!!

~Natasha

Source:
http://www.babble.com/babble-voices/husband-wife-life-lamar-ronnie-tyler/5-ways-to-get-your-kids-to-read-40-books-during-summer-break/

Copyright 2014. Natasha Foreman Bryant. Some Rights Reserved.

My Response to John Hope Bryant’s Article “If Bill Gates Were Black”

By Natasha L. Foreman, MBA

 

I wanted to share my thoughts regarding John Hope Bryant’s brilliant article that was posted on and by Bloomberg BusinessWeek today. I also wanted to have a healthy dialogue with those individuals who showed their lack of critical thinking skills before they reacted, and quickly responded in the negative, to the article.

It is my opinion that the moment many of us don’t understand something or it rubs us the wrong the way, the remaining of what we read or hear turns more into an episode of Charlie Brown, just a bunch of whah whah whah blah blah blah…and we don’t hear or interpret anything else. We are then too focused on a counter argument, but never on seeking clarification. Here is the link to John Hope Bryant’s article: http://www.businessweek.com/articles/2012-04-04/if-bill-gates-were-black-dot-dot-dot

Below is my comment that I submitted to Bloomberg, that they will hopefully post in their comments section below the article. After you read John’s article and the comments made by other readers, please share your thoughts about the article and comments (inclusive of mine). Let’s have some healthy dialogue and if possible, some positive solutions to issues facing the Black community specifically, and all underserved communities in general. Here you go:

Economic empowerment and the eradication of poverty first begins with understanding the history of how this country was built, how we rebuild during economic downfalls, and how the least of God’s children are impacted. It requires us to look at the missing piece between the have’s and have not’s. 

So yes, possessing a bank account versus being robbed blind at check cashing centers is a bonus. Yes, having a credit score around or higher than 700, instead of 550 and lower, is a huge predictor of a community’s growth and prosperity—as well as an individual’s ability to thrive not just merely survive. Yes, being financially literate is imperative, because if you aren’t then you run the risk of falling prey to predatory lenders who can smell your desperation miles away.

If you don’t have a bank account then how are you depositing or cashing checks? Are you going to check cashing centers and giving them a portion of YOUR money to gain access to YOUR money? That doesn’t sound like the wisest of choices when you have a choice. Show me one millionaire or billionaire who doesn’t have a bank account. Show me one entrepreneur without a bank account. Show me. I’m sure you can’t.

The banking system isn’t corrupt, there are corrupt INDIVIDUALS in the banking system; just like there are corrupt individuals in countless other systems including government, religious organizations, educational institutions, charities, etc. You can’t blame a crisis caused by unethical behavior on an entire system, because just as there were predatory lenders who knew customers were potentially high risk for loan defaults, there are some ‘victims’ of this economic downfall who knew they bought more house than they could afford, who knew that they didn’t have true job ‘security’ but gambled with the odds anyway, who claimed to earn more than they actually had (and eventually they had more month than money). So unethical decisions from individuals caused our country to suffer these past few years.

This is a brilliant post by John Hope Bryant, that clearly expresses the sentiment that if African Americans had a Bill Gates-type-entrepreneurial role model then the vision for the Black community would not be limited to a mindset of ‘only the lucky get out’, and the ‘victory’ would not be narrowed to simply having a ‘Black President”.  

Think about it, if Bill Gates was a Black man, the money he donates and invests would be injected within his community first and then worldwide. Don’t most of us consider taking care of ‘home’ before we take care of the rest of the world? Don’t we start local and then go global? Well if this were the case, then Black communities would be resuscitated through Gates community giving, and the country (and world) would see a different ‘picture’ of these communities. 

John Hope Bryant is NOT saying that Black people don’t have entrepreneurial role models; he is saying that we need MORE business owners who are employing thousands, not merely hundreds (or less). He’s saying we need more innovators, more businesses in technology, etc. that provide a competitive advantage within the U.S. in general, and within Black communities specifically. He’s saying we need MORE Black entrepreneurs going into the community, going into the schools and teaching and sharing the ‘magic’ in their success. 

He is saying that in order to eradicate poverty and gain economic empowerment in the Black community it is going to take the Black community, not government, not charity, not handouts, but hard work and each person reaching back to an open hand and providing a hand up out of the pit. It’s going to require Black people with 700+ credit scores teaching those with 550 and lower credit scores how they did it. It’s going to require Black entrepreneurs to hire within their community, to bring on interns to learn the ropes at their company, and to mentor young Black children.

The majority of our role models that our children regularly see come from entertainment and sports backgrounds, which there is nothing wrong with that, except if you lack talent in either area, then what? 

Additionally, and no disrespect, but Oprah Winfrey, Magic Johnson, Bob Johnson, and others have built BRANDS that employ–but none to the extent of a Bill Gates level; and all three brands represent entertainment or sports. In 2007, Microsoft employed a reported 79,000 people. That was in 2007. Name one Black-owned company that employs 79,000 people?  

So John Hope Bryant’s article says, “what if Bill Gates were Black?” What changes would you see in the Black community? What would Black children aspire to become if they saw a Black employer hiring thousands of people within their community? How many Black people could be employed (since unemployment is HIGHEST in the Black community)? How many of our children would be encouraged to excel in STEM courses and pursue careers in those fields so that they too could grow up to ‘be like Bill’?

We need to take the emotion out; we need to stop wanting to attack everything we don’t understand, and start acting like we are intelligent enough to ASK for clarification if needed, and to ASK how we can individually and collectively help solve the problem.

How many of you volunteer in the Black community? How many of you work with the underserved and underrepresented? How many of you are helping to work towards a solution? Or are you merely only focusing on picking at and tearing down the things you don’t understand, and the things you are against? If you aren’t doing anything to help the Black community, and other underserved and underrepresented communities, then what does your opinion really mean, and what are you truly adding to this conversation? 

John Hope Bryant you did an awesome job with this piece. We need our children to aspire to be entrepreneurs as much as (or more than) they aspire to be athletes and entertainers. Great, they want to be a football star, but let’s teach them to also start and build a business (now) as an additional revenue stream—so when their football career ends, they still have a career…and wealth, not just temporary riches! 

A broke mindset only gets the same results…an unfinished puzzle!

 

 

Copyright 2012. Natasha L. Foreman. All Rights Reserved.

Natasha’s Thought of the Day: Dream Big!

Children are huge dreamers before adults destroy their imaginative spirits and tell them to start thinking smaller, to start being “realistic”. The huge dreams of a child is exactly where God wants us to be. There is no fear connected with dreaming big and setting goals to attain what we desire. There is fear in thinking small. The most successful people in the world open their minds to what most people would consider the impossible, the inconceivable, and the insane. 

Think of President Barack Obama, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Oprah Winfrey, Mark Zuckerberg, Mary Kay Ash, Bob Johnson and others who had big dreams and didn’t stop thinking, pushing, and working even after those dreams materialized. Even after they passed away, King, Jobs, and Ash’s legacies continue to live on through the work they started…their passion serves as the fuel for their mission. Their brand continues to grow.

We must realize that our actions and lack thereof impact us and others for generations. The native Americans have a saying that every decision we make today impacts seven generations of the future. So consider the decisions you make each day. Make sound decisions but don’t limit yourself in fear. Allow yourself to dream big and have the intense imagination that you did as a child. Free yourself!

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Copyright 2012. Natasha L. Foreman. All Rights Reserved. 
Excerpts of this thought were first drafted for Breaking Bread with Natasha on WordPress and Blogspot.
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Sean’s 2012 Thought

Sean’s 2012 Thought:

New Year’s resolutions are fool’s gold. Do not promise to lose a bunch of weight or be a better spouse, parent or friend. Don’t say you are going to call people or stop cursing. None of these things last.

Instead, be honest with yourself. Listen to those who take time to talk to you. Surround yourself with those who will help you grow not those who will keep you where you are. Find balance in your life and try new things.

In short, make today better than yesterday for everyday this year. Grow internally as a person, as a husband/wife, as a parent, as a boss/worker, and as a friend. Be more than you thought you could be but not more than you should be!

Copyright 2012. All RIghts Reserved.

7 Habits of Highly Frugal People

I ran across this article not too long ago that caught my attention. Simply titled the “7 Habits of Highly Frugal People”, it does an impressive job breaking down seven habits that everyone can do (if serious and committed) to become frugal in their spending and living. Living frugally means spending sparingly, scrimping, and skipping on purchasing simply because you have the money– choosing rather to save towards a purchase or investing in something with greater returns.

If you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, barely making ends meet, having more month than money (with only high-end clothes or gadgets to show for), or realize that your financial legacy may not be much of one in 50-70 years (or worse, 5-10 years), then this article is for you. I took each habit, highlighted key characteristics and then provided additional details and resources at the end. I of course also included a link to the article so you can read it for yourself. Let’s get started shall we?

Habit One: Be Proactive
**Taking the first step and claiming responsibility; telling others this is your goal and intended lifestyle; listen to yourself and your excuses for buying things**

Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind
**Visualizing effective frugality**

Habit Three: Put First Things First
**Recognize the effects of your finances and understand it’s okay to say no**

Habit Four: Think Win-Win
**Creating frugal win-win scenarios**

Habit Five: Communication
**How listening can help you to become effectively frugal**

Habit Six: Synergize
**Learning ways to be more frugal, and surrounding yourself with other frugal people**

Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw
**Learning to frugally renew yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually**

To read the article in its entirety visit: http://moneyning.com/frugality/7-habits-of-highly-frugal-people/? There are also some other great things and resources to consider that were mentioned in the article:

1. There are six action steps to take when you are feeling financially vulnerable: http://moneyning.com/better-yourself/6-action-steps-to-take-when-you-feel-financially-vulnerable/

2. When building wealth, remember to think of the big picture too http://moneyning.com/investing/seeing-the-big-picture-in-creating-wealth/

3. Learn to embrace the positive influence of saving money http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/positive-influence-of-saving-money/

4. Frugality doesn’t mean having to give up all of your luxuries and things that make you happy  http://moneyning.com/frugality/are-you-tired-of-being-frugal/

5. Practicing frugal principles  http://moneyning.com/frugal-living/

6. Making SMART goals http://moneyning.com/better-yourself/add-an-s-to-smart-goals-this-year/

7. Consider these 25 ways to pay off your debt more easily. http://moneyning.com/debt/25-debt-reduction-tips-for-your-immediate-action-plan/

Copyright 2011.
Copyright 2012. Natasha L. Foreman

>To Reach Your Goal…See it First

>A few days ago we looked at setting your goals. Today let’s move a step farther away from your comfort zone shall we?!? In order for your goals to be a major focus in your life you need to see them daily. What do I mean by that? Well, let me put it to you this way, you can’t simply write them in your journal or on a sheet of paper and put it away somewhere. Your goals need to be in your face day in and day out asking you, “So what are you doing today to make this happen?”

I have post-it notes I keep in my car, on my laptop, bathroom mirror in my bedroom, and throughout my home. I call them “God notes” because I’m asking God to show up and show out to help me reach these weekly and monthly goals. On my dry erase board in my office I have my big action plan items that I need to attack and conquer for my clients, and for myself. I have my financial goals boldly written where I can see them every time I enter and exit the room.

Another key reinforcer is a goal poster that I like putting on walls and bedroom doors. I don’t care that some people may think it’s tacky to do, I know how it makes me feel (especially when I accomplish those goals). First writing down my goals with the dates (which can be done in a notebook) allows me to put them in order of priority, making sure that I included every goal both short term and long term. Then I transfer the information written to the poster (bright colored ones really catch and hold your attention), making sure that it is legible and can be seen from a distance. I will oftentimes cut out pictures of items that represent the goal and clearly indicate my target completion date. Matter of fact, it’s time for an updated board this week.

Lastly, I have a “dream book” that I started in 2002-2003 while working with Mary Kay Cosmetics. As I moved up in leadership positions it was vital that I kept myself focused on what I needed and wanted in life….my big girl dreams! This week I must update it because some of the dates have passed, and the dreams I had as goals (and accomplished) need to be replaced with new goals. The goals I did not achieve, need to be re-assessed and updated with new dates. I will then share it with one to two people whose opinion matters most to me.

When I don’t keep these reminders in front of me constantly, I have nothing staring me in my face on those lazy days and not-feeling-so-good-days that tell me I’m slacking, and risk losing more than the roof over my head.

When fear tries to set in and my vision becomes blurred, I can quickly and easily turn to a “God note” or one of my other sources for motivation and clarity.

Be sure that your “accountability team” is doing their job and that you’re keeping them posted on your progress. Not reaching your goals does not phase you as much when no one knew of your goals to begin with- but the moment you tell people, “my goal is to bring home $7,100 monthly net beginning May 1, 2010” believe that March 29th they are asking you how close you are at reaching your goal….April 20th they are asking, “are you ready?”… And by May 1st they will be looking at you closely to see if you did what you said you would!

You must realize that you need this fire under you sometimes. Embrace it!

Now if you don’t have one to two people to share your goals with then contact me! I’ve been there…the naysayers, the scared kittens who run behind the curtains when they hear thunder and lightning….those are definitely not the type of people you need to share your goals with. You can’t run to the top with Shaggy and Scooby…trust me…the only time you will be running to the top of anything and that is up a flight of stairs (out of fear) trying to get away from something!

You need believers, innovators, movers and shakers. You need people who are forward-thinking, dream big and work smart so they can win. You need people who face fear head on; who hear and see the lightning and thunder and admire the power behind it, as they sit, watch, and listen in amazement.

…So trust and believe that I have spent many years wondering who would be a part of my “accountability team”. I wondered who could be trusted to encourage and push me even at times when things got blurry and I was not sure I would make it across the finish line. I’ve had people on my team that were lovingly cut; just as I have recently brought people aboard who expect nothing but the best from me and will encourage, motivate, push, and pull me all the way to the top.

The years of pushing myself, alone, were miserable and counter-productive. Having mentors and friends who know me, know my potential, and know my heart, surround me and say, “you can do it Tasha” has made all the difference. I’m not saying I don’t still have people around me who don’t see my vision, who don’t see how I can set high goals for myself with a short window of time to accomplish them; but I don’t rely on them for support, cheerleading and butt kicking…their simply my added motivation to prove to them that you can do anything you set your mind to doing.

So when faced with negative or insensitive comments about your goal posters, “God notes”, or dream book simply look directly into their eyes and say these four little words- pretend…its…not…there. If for whatever reason you have a real comedian on hand, smile and then say these four words- don’t…worry…about…it….then wait for their response; or should I say non-response.

As you find yourself reaching and accomplishing more and more goals be prepared for the sap sucking groupies because they will be coming out the wood works claiming they always believed in you from the beginning! Don’t stop and entertain this but for a minute (or at all) because you still have much more to do within your lifetime and investing in fair weather friends is not a lucrative investment!

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>Setting Goals the Right Way!

>You dream….

In order to make the dream a reality you need a goal with a date signifying when you plan on reaching that goal. Clear objectives must be outlined showing benchmark dates and tasks where you “check in” to see how you are progressing towards reaching the goal. You can’t just say, “I want to buy a house” and not give yourself a deadline with measurable benchmarks. You have to say, “I want to buy a house by Spring 2011” and then give yourself three, four, or six month incremental benchmark dates to check your progress.

Here are a few examples of various types of goals (broken down by category):

Financial: Increase my earnings to $9,250 per month beginning August 2011 (benchmark dates are every three months); eliminate my bad debt of $75,000 by Thanksgiving 2013 (every month I will pay off $2,083 in debt); pay off my $2,000 credit card debt before July 4, 2010 (I will pay $400 per month).

Relationship: I want to take my sweetie to Europe for 14 days by September 1, 2010 (benchmark of every two months); get married by July 1, 2011 (I will propose to her January 1, 2011); I want to have a baby by December 2010 (we will go off birth control next week; monthly benchmarks); take a couple’s cruise to reignite our “flame” by July 2010 (monthly payment plan and benchmark); start having weekly “date night’s” beginning March 1, 2010.

Spiritual: Read the entire Bible by the end May 2010 (March 20, 2010 benchmark to confirm half-way point).

Household: Re-paint the house by September 2010; new flooring by Christmas 2010.

Health/Fitness (weekly/monthly benchmarks): lose 10 pounds by April 1, 2010; run the 5K in May 2010; lower my cholesterol by 10 points by June 2010; run a mile in 5 minutes by April 29, 2010.

Once you have set your goals and objectives, you then share this information with one to two people who truly support you and want to see you succeed; so they can not only be your cheerleader, but also hold you accountable.

Then hit the pavement running!

Copyright © 2010 by Natasha L. Foreman. All rights reserved.