I Don’t Know About You But Here’s My Plan For Today and This Year

I’m going to focus on today, today. What can I do, see, and be today? That is my focus.

If I have one foot in the past and one in the future, that means I’m straddling the present. If I’m straddling the present then all I can possibly do is take a dump on today or choose to move both of my feet into today’s space. I don’t know about you but I’m tired of dumping on my present. I want to thrive each day. I want to wake excited about what the day will bring, and I want to fall asleep at night pleased with all that I experienced, learned, and shared that day.

I want my life to be about healing reflection not regret. I want to make the most out of my days so that I’m excitedly sharing the greatness of now, and not dwelling on my hay day of the past successes. I want my setback to be a learning setup for bigger and better success, not a cesspool blame game of what-went-wrong.

Yesterday is behind us. Last year is behind us. So are all of the years past that you can’t return to and fix. What happened has happened. You don’t have a time machine to change things; and if you did, would you truly change every thing that happened in your past? Because you would have to in order to get your desired outcome, which means there’s a lot of great people and experiences you would miss out on all because you wanted to change one or more series in your life’s story.

Think of how much precious time you would then lose in the present and how that would then affect your future. There’s a better way to deal with our past….Learn from it and move forward. Stop dumping on your present, or that gift will no longer be your reality.

This isn’t a new year’s resolution, this is my daily affirmation. Focus on being, doing, and seeing all that God has called on me to be, do, and see today.

My self-talk for today….

Maybe it will help someone else who needs a loving push.

~Natasha

Copyright 2019. Natasha L. Foreman. All Rights Reserved.

A Call to Action for All Men: Part One

By Natasha Foreman Bryant, MBA
 
 I’m fed up so I’m speaking out and I’m calling people forward to join me, and to do their part to change our situation. Every week I will post a Call to Action. Today I share part one of this series.
 
 Today and every day I call for men to stand up and be men in your families and households, communities, and in the communities that are in need of positive male images. I don’t care your color, racial makeup, nationality, religion, or how much money you earn. I just want to start seeing men lead and work to take back our neighborhoods.
 
 I want to see more men investing time in classrooms, in before and after school programs, in local community centers, in churches and religious centers, and in outreach programs. I want to see more men tutoring our youth, and telling them about the struggles of adulthood while encouraging them to accept the challenge with dignity.
 
 I want to see more men teaching young boys what it really takes to be a man, and that it has nothing to do with his age, the money in his pocket, the number of females he can impress and have sex with, the size (or capability) of his sexual organ, how far he can throw a ball, how well he can dribble or shoot one, or how fast he can run. These boys need to learn that making babies doesn’t make them a man, taking care of them and treating their mothers with respect is what separates the men from the deadbeats.
 
 Come on fellas, step up and tell these young brothas about the dope game and how they are setting themselves up to be locked up or stone cold in a grave, and how they are risking their families lives every single day. Tell them about the marijuana and crack possession laws that are slanted to incarcerate and keep them mentally enslaved for years. There is no credible and long-term retirement plan for drug dealers or gang members, and their families.
 
 Tell them why being in a gang doesn’t bring them power or respect, because they don’t own the streets they terrorize, and no one respects a person they fear—they merely tolerate them and hope that God or the government will remove them from their life. The disdain that they feel by the so-called “power structure” is the same disdain their community has for them. Oh and those big, bad guns that they (and others) want to tote around, their usage proves nothing to the rest of us—anyone can pull a trigger. I don’t condone violence, but two pairs of fists make a point better than a bullet, bat, knife, or other weapon. If you can’t put up those fists and take a “chin check”, then you need to stay out of drama and don’t let your mouth write a check your butt can’t cash.
 
 Pulling a trigger, stabbing, kicking or beating a person, stealing from or robbing someone doesn’t make you hard or brave. It makes you weak. It sets you up for a life of failure, incarceration, or a shortened lifespan. Tell them this. Explain this to our boys and young men.
 
 A weapon used for revenge or punishment is a cowards way out. You can’t claim self defense when you go out looking for the person to harm. People are outraged about George Zimmerman, so am I, but I’m also outraged by the countless young Black, Brown, Yellow, and White boys who are killing each other like it’s a video game. The players don’t reset themselves in real life like they do in a video game. In real life once the person dies the game is over.
 
 Even a person being bullied doesn’t really get an “eye for an eye” sort of revenge when they pull out a gun and begin firing. Now one or more people are dead or injured, and the person bullied is heading to jail (if they didn’t turn the gun on themselves or get killed by a third party). I need the men to stand up and explain this to our youth and young adults.
 
 Men I need you to stand up, stand up, stand up, and get to work. Don’t close your eyes or turn your head, get to work. We have a world to save!
 
 ~Natasha Foreman Bryant
 
 
 
 Copyright 2013. Natasha Foreman Bryant. All Rights Reserved.
 
 
 

Are you or Your Spouse at Risk of Losing Employer-Sponsored Insurance Coverage?

Today I wrote an article for my Business Management Firm, Foreman & Associates LLC, highlighting an article that I read about UPS’s decision to cut insurance coverage for 15,000 spouses of non-union workers in the U.S.

Read my article here: http://wp.me/p11NVc-5X and share your thoughts, experiences, and possible solutions for small business owners, and the employees that are caught in the middle.

Copyright 2013. All Rights Reserved. Natasha L. Foreman.

>To Reach Your Goal…See it First

>A few days ago we looked at setting your goals. Today let’s move a step farther away from your comfort zone shall we?!? In order for your goals to be a major focus in your life you need to see them daily. What do I mean by that? Well, let me put it to you this way, you can’t simply write them in your journal or on a sheet of paper and put it away somewhere. Your goals need to be in your face day in and day out asking you, “So what are you doing today to make this happen?”

I have post-it notes I keep in my car, on my laptop, bathroom mirror in my bedroom, and throughout my home. I call them “God notes” because I’m asking God to show up and show out to help me reach these weekly and monthly goals. On my dry erase board in my office I have my big action plan items that I need to attack and conquer for my clients, and for myself. I have my financial goals boldly written where I can see them every time I enter and exit the room.

Another key reinforcer is a goal poster that I like putting on walls and bedroom doors. I don’t care that some people may think it’s tacky to do, I know how it makes me feel (especially when I accomplish those goals). First writing down my goals with the dates (which can be done in a notebook) allows me to put them in order of priority, making sure that I included every goal both short term and long term. Then I transfer the information written to the poster (bright colored ones really catch and hold your attention), making sure that it is legible and can be seen from a distance. I will oftentimes cut out pictures of items that represent the goal and clearly indicate my target completion date. Matter of fact, it’s time for an updated board this week.

Lastly, I have a “dream book” that I started in 2002-2003 while working with Mary Kay Cosmetics. As I moved up in leadership positions it was vital that I kept myself focused on what I needed and wanted in life….my big girl dreams! This week I must update it because some of the dates have passed, and the dreams I had as goals (and accomplished) need to be replaced with new goals. The goals I did not achieve, need to be re-assessed and updated with new dates. I will then share it with one to two people whose opinion matters most to me.

When I don’t keep these reminders in front of me constantly, I have nothing staring me in my face on those lazy days and not-feeling-so-good-days that tell me I’m slacking, and risk losing more than the roof over my head.

When fear tries to set in and my vision becomes blurred, I can quickly and easily turn to a “God note” or one of my other sources for motivation and clarity.

Be sure that your “accountability team” is doing their job and that you’re keeping them posted on your progress. Not reaching your goals does not phase you as much when no one knew of your goals to begin with- but the moment you tell people, “my goal is to bring home $7,100 monthly net beginning May 1, 2010” believe that March 29th they are asking you how close you are at reaching your goal….April 20th they are asking, “are you ready?”… And by May 1st they will be looking at you closely to see if you did what you said you would!

You must realize that you need this fire under you sometimes. Embrace it!

Now if you don’t have one to two people to share your goals with then contact me! I’ve been there…the naysayers, the scared kittens who run behind the curtains when they hear thunder and lightning….those are definitely not the type of people you need to share your goals with. You can’t run to the top with Shaggy and Scooby…trust me…the only time you will be running to the top of anything and that is up a flight of stairs (out of fear) trying to get away from something!

You need believers, innovators, movers and shakers. You need people who are forward-thinking, dream big and work smart so they can win. You need people who face fear head on; who hear and see the lightning and thunder and admire the power behind it, as they sit, watch, and listen in amazement.

…So trust and believe that I have spent many years wondering who would be a part of my “accountability team”. I wondered who could be trusted to encourage and push me even at times when things got blurry and I was not sure I would make it across the finish line. I’ve had people on my team that were lovingly cut; just as I have recently brought people aboard who expect nothing but the best from me and will encourage, motivate, push, and pull me all the way to the top.

The years of pushing myself, alone, were miserable and counter-productive. Having mentors and friends who know me, know my potential, and know my heart, surround me and say, “you can do it Tasha” has made all the difference. I’m not saying I don’t still have people around me who don’t see my vision, who don’t see how I can set high goals for myself with a short window of time to accomplish them; but I don’t rely on them for support, cheerleading and butt kicking…their simply my added motivation to prove to them that you can do anything you set your mind to doing.

So when faced with negative or insensitive comments about your goal posters, “God notes”, or dream book simply look directly into their eyes and say these four little words- pretend…its…not…there. If for whatever reason you have a real comedian on hand, smile and then say these four words- don’t…worry…about…it….then wait for their response; or should I say non-response.

As you find yourself reaching and accomplishing more and more goals be prepared for the sap sucking groupies because they will be coming out the wood works claiming they always believed in you from the beginning! Don’t stop and entertain this but for a minute (or at all) because you still have much more to do within your lifetime and investing in fair weather friends is not a lucrative investment!

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